Robert May of Carmel Valley is a stay-at-home dad to his two sons, Ian and Lucas. In his spare time, he works as a director, actor, sound designer and voiceover artist. He is married to D. Candis Paule, a casting director, art gallery administrator and private acting coach.
May was born and raised in Champaign, Ill. He received his bachelor of arts degree in communications from Southern Illinois University Carbondale, and a master of fine arts in acting from the University of Arizona in Tucson. He worked at several radio stations in Illinois and California, and has acted and directed at theaters in Illinois, Arizona, Colorado and California.
He is currently directing the Tony Award-winning play "I'm Not Rappaport" for Scripps Ranch Theatre. The show opens on Saturday.
What brought you to Carmel Valley?
My wife and I were living in downtown San Diego when she became pregnant, so we looked for a family community that had great schools.
What makes Carmel Valley special to you?
It is the community where we chose to raise our children, so that will be the most special part for me.
If you could snap your fingers and have it done, what might you add, subtract or improve in Carmel Valley?
Add: efficient and clean public transportation. More trees - a LOT more trees. A live music venue that brings in various acts but specializes in jazz. A warm and friendly neighborhood pub with great food and affordable drinks.
Subtract: Pretentious street names that are three, four and sometimes five words long, have nothing to do with the community, and take five minutes to spell out to someone on the phone.
Who or what inspires you?
When I'm working as a director, I try to pull from what I've experienced personally, or from what I can imagine. The smallest detail can be an inspiration. My family inspires me. The mountains inspire me.
If you hosted a dinner party for eight, who (living or deceased) would you invite?
It would be a barbecue, and I would invite Buster Keaton, Charlie Chaplin, Spencer Tracy, Katharine Hepburn, Steve McQueen, Miles Davis, Sting and Grandma May.
Tell us about what you are currently reading.
I'm reading an autobiography of broadcaster Dick Enberg entitled "Oh My!" I love learning about television and radio broadcast history. I'm also reading the next play I'll be directing - "State of the Art" by San Diego playwright Craig Abernethy. It opens at the Green Room of Twiggs Coffee House in University Heights on Oct. 2.
What is your most prized possession?
My memory. I believe it's also my most fragile possession.
What do you do for fun?
Ride bikes with my family. Play chess. Drink wine. Listen to music. I started drum lessons a year ago and would really like to play more often.
Please describe your greatest accomplishment.
I know it's a cliche, but my children are without a doubt and honestly my greatest accomplishment.
What is your motto or philosophy of life?
To live a creative life, we must lose (overcome) our fear of being wrong. It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.