By Nancy Bickford
Certified Family Law Specialist in San Diego
Divorce can be difficult – just take it from anyone who’s gone through it. Custody arrangements, child support, spousal support, real estate division and dealing with mixed emotions are just some of the major factors that come into play when couples decide to separate. The good news is that with the right guidance, divorce doesn’t have to be a fearful endeavor nor does it even have to be difficult.
Let’s take a look at the latest high-profile separation between Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom. According to the latest reports, Khloe is reportedly afraid to get a divorce from estranged husband Lamar Odom due in part to his severe mental stresses triggered by the separation.
“Khloe Kardashian has taken NO steps to divorce Lamar Odom because she's afraid he'll die or kill himself if she does,” TMZ
earlier this month.
There’s no doubt that a combination of fear and emotion can impact our decisions to divorce. Suddenly, divorce can become a public issue whether celebrity or not.
But Khloe and Lamar aren’t strangers to the limelight. Marital troubles made headlines throughout the year due to the NBA star’s alleged drug use. In a recent episode of “Keeping Up With the Kardashians,” Khloe called her husband a “very depressed person” and said that “nothing’s really working” in terms of salvaging what was left of their marriage.
It goes without saying that 2013 has been a tough one for the couple with Odom facing multiple reports of drug abuse amid a DUI arrest earlier in August. If divorce is looming, the couple’s separation would follow closely on the heels of mom and stepfather Kris and Bruce Jenner who decided to call it quits after 22 years of marriage. In a recent blog post by San Diego divorce attorney Jaime Teuchert, we cover the most recent details of the
Those who are currently separated in their own marriages are encouraged to read it.
Emotional fears are just one factor among many that may cause divorcees to panic. According to a
Slater & Gordon
, couples avoid divorce based on fear of financial or emotional hardship even though they feel trapped in the marriage and would otherwise divorce.
Incredibly, that means thousands of couples are simply going through the motions rather than overcoming the fear associated with divorce. Turns out, even
aren’t immune to the powerful emotions – including fear – that inevitably come with separation.
FEARLESS DIVORCE IN SAN DIEGO
In many cases, divorce in San Diego – while difficult – can be dealt with as a “business transaction” rather than an emotionally-charged and contentious personal matter. When it comes to making the most of your separation, keep these tips in mind to overcome fear and come out on top.
BE PROPERLY REPRESENTED.
Have someone on your side. Use a
in San Diego who can back you up when needed and resolve contentious issues quickly. After all, you want to move on from your divorce. Hire an attorney who shares these same sentiments so you can get on with your life.
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.
Small matters have an uncanny way of becoming a big deal – unnecessarily. As difficult as it may be, try not to sweat the small stuff. Of course, you’ll want to make strategic decisions, but when it comes to the division of relatively inexpensive items, you may want to choose your battles – in the name of sanity.
Needless to say, divorce is hard. By now, we already know that divorce can impose significant fear, celebrity or not. To overcome these uncertainties and to make the most of your mixed emotions, seek personal counseling. It can help put your mind – and heart – to rest so you can move on with your life in peace.
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