A few weeks ago, Kim Kardashian posted a nude selfie on Twitter with the words: “When you’re like I have nothing to wear, LOL”. Harmless? You tell me.
The very funny and witty Bette Middler, immediately tweeted a response to Kim’s selfie and she wrote: “Kim Kardashian tweeted a nude selfie today — If Kim wants us to see a part of her we’ve never seen, she’s gonna have to swallow the camera.” Kim didn’t take it too well. Come on, that’s hilarious.
Initially, when I saw the nude selfie, I didn’t have any reaction. It’s what she does. It’s similar to the people who freak out over Howard Stern. If you think he’s vile, then don’t listen to him. But as a parent, this Kim K. thing is bigger than my “Who is it hurting attitude”? Here’s why:
She has every right to post what she wants on her social media accounts. But she has 41.5 million Twitter followers and 63 million Instagram followers. What does that mean? It means that one hell of a lot of young girls are following Kim Kardashian on social media and want to be like her; and that’s where it gets scary. Years ago, Charles Barkley did a Nike ad and he said, “I am not a role model. I am not paid to be a role model. I’m paid to wreak havoc on the basketball court. Parents should be role models. Just because I dunk a basketball, doesn’t mean that I should raise your kids.” I was incredibly offended with that statement 20 years ago, and that’s how I feel about Kim Kardashian today. When you have 100 million followers, and the majority of them are young girls, you are a role model and you do have a responsibility. Of course parents play a role, but kids are on their phones 24/7 and they aren’t snap chatting their parents. To quote JFK, “To whom much is given, much is expected.” Amen.
Kim defended her selfie stating that she’s “Free and liberated” and proudly showing the world her body, flaws and all. Here’s the problem: Kim doesn’t have any flaws, and for the millions of young girls with negative body issues, what is she saying to them?
Not to mention, if you’ve ever seen a glimpse of what tween and teen girls post on their Instagram accounts, you would be horrified. These girls have no shame in their game. I’m not sure where their parents are but that’s another rant altogether.
If you find a way to gain access to a 13-year-olds’ Instagram account, here is what you will see: Girls that pose like Kim K., half naked in front of a mirror. Close up shots of their boobs and buns in their thong underwear. And sometimes they get spicy and add a friend or two in their shots, equally unclothed. What’s really sad is that they have no idea who has access to these photos.
I want to shake these girls. If they want to feel “Liberated and free,” like Kim K., they should realize that being liberated means they don’t have to post those inappropriate selfies. Kim K. feels empowered because she just had a baby, and her post baby body is insane. I get it. I understand her wanting to show off her curvy “flawless” body. But she doesn’t get how it’s impacting young girls who idolize her and want to emulate her. Young girls think that if Kim K. does it, they can too. If Kim is empowered by posting nude selfies, maybe they will be too? It breaks my heart to see how they misinterpret Kim’s posts.
Wouldn’t it be great if she could send out a message on social media telling her fans that to be empowered and loving your body doesn’t mean you have to get naked on Instagram? When you are in the public eye, you are a role model, just one mom’s opinion.
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