Prosecutor: Del Mar man raped two women after meeting them online; Defense says client is innocent

By Kelly Wheeler

City News Service

A Del Mar resident accused of raping two women had a how-to dating guide intended for men fed up being a nice guy,’’ a prosecutor alleged June 11, but a defense attorney said his client did not rape the women.

Sean Patrick Banks, 38, is accused of raping a La Mesa woman in her apartment after they met on in November 2012. The defendant is also accused of raping a woman he met on a different dating website,, in 2009.

Banks faces 44 years to life in prison if convicted of forcible rape, rape of an unconscious person, sex with a foreign object, burglary and trying to dissuade a witness.

While going through one of Banks’ computers, police found a downloaded book that detailed dating and seduction techniques for a guy who’s fed up being a nice guy,’’ said Deputy District Attorney David Williams III in his opening statement.

Williams said that the La Mesa woman — identified as K.K.’’ — met Banks on and assumed him to be a good Christian man.

The woman and Banks — who called himself Rylan’’— talked about Jesus and the Bible and decided to meet face-to-face for the first time the night of Nov. 21, 2012.

He said the right things to her,’’ the prosecutor told the jury, noting that Banks called K.K.sweetie’’ and cutie’’ online.

Banks arrived at the woman’s apartment with his own bar’’ and made K.K. a mixed drink, which she took one sip from, Williams said.

The two started kissing on her couch, according to the prosecutor, but the woman resisted when he started to fondle her.

Williams said Banks grabbed the woman by the arm and led her to the bedroom, but she didn’t scream or fight because she only knew his first name and thought he would kill her.

The prosecutor said Banks got on top of the victim and raped her.

K.K. couldn’t believe that she had just been raped,’’ Williams told the jury.

After the sexual encounter, Banks left, then called K.K. and made it seem like he was never there, the prosecutor said.

There’s something wrong with you. It’s weird,’’ K.K. allegedly told the defendant.

When contacted at his home, Banks told police the sex was consensual and that K.K. was disturbed,’’ according to Williams.

A second woman, identified as R.O.,’’ said she met Banks on in May 2009 and eventually had dinner and drinks with him at a La Jolla restaurant.

The next thing she remembers, she was bent over her own couch and Banks was having sex with her, Williams said.

R.O. knows she didn’t consent,’’ the prosecutor told the jury.

Williams said R.O. didn’t call police, but came forward nearly four years later when La Mesa police put out a press release asking for information from any women who think they may have been victimized by Banks.

Defense attorney Brian J. White said his client was innocent.

This case is about consent,’’ White told the jury.It’s about consent given and consent withdrawn.’’

White said that when the two alleged victims told him to stop his sexual advances, he did.

K.K. told a responding officer that she and Banks didn’t have intercourse, but later wrote that he penetrated her, according to White.

Banks told police that everything with K.K. was consensual until they got into the bedroom.

Regarding R.O., White said there would be no evidence that she was raped while intoxicated, except for her testimony.

White said Banks — seeking a fresh start — started going by the name Rylan after filing for bankruptcy.